Respect: I think we all know how some - not all men - talk about women. Especially when women are not around. It is only about their physics and that they have "fun". They sometimes treat women like an object for their egoistic "fun". Or as kind o status symbol, like a sports car.
Do you think that many men are like that or that it wasn't as prevalent in the past..? As far as I know, there are men who are gross when talking about women in older generations. At a point, it was even mixed to women being no more than a closet or a table, so you'd get both an object, literally, and a contest to get the most of them for men who could.
I do not want to have to dress completely different when I go out - only that my partner can use my as a status symbol. I do not wont to pe "presented" like this. -
I think you are talking about another topic here if you are afraid to dress the way you want. There was no such problem a few years ago and morality police is something that is part of some cultures more than a characteristic of men or today's men in my opinion...
What I meant: look at the advertisment: almost lmost completely naked women. Almost always, almost everywhere. That obviously tempts you to concentrate only on the body. But who thinks about the fact that these women (similar to pronography) also have a soul and dignity?
Admitting that all you think here is the truth, then aren't women lacking of self respect on the first place?
Also, what about men's body being showed? Like Oxiu mentionned, Didn't humanity simply lost respect to itself as a whole?
But who thinks about the fact that these women (similar to pronography) also have a soul and dignity? Is not moderate clothing, shame, decency ultimately much more beautiful? Who would like to see his own wife half-naked on big posters outside...?
That's a kind of puritanism I don't subscribe to because I haven't grown up with it. I don't subscribe to the kind of moral policy you suggest as well through clothing moderately or experience shame because of her body.
I grew up in an environment teaching me that if a woman wants to wear a bikini on the beach, that's perfectly fine and her body is only a body, and not a sexual object per se. Same, a woman wearing short clothes and having specific make up isn't necessarily a whore who want to have sex with any man. This worked fine in early 2000's still and it really starts to degrade because some people think that it's morally unacceptable to wear this or that clothe and that women who don't comply are no more than prostitutes who don't deserve any respect (and you'd see that is places where this morality police/cult of shame/harassment becomes really annoying, women don't dare to wear anything anymore but potato bags).
While I agree that I find a woman who knows how to dress moderately and don't resemble to an inhabitant from Gomorrah, but most importantly behave in an elegant way, much more appealing to me, and while I can aree that saying everything is ok and all men will be absolutely civilized and won't talk poorly of women is a kind of dream, I don't care what others do or if they want to expose their wives to everyones like a trophy (which I can also imagine, because as a man, physical trait is a main characteristic in a partner we will look for, and having a very beautiful woman is source of pride).
Last but not least, I had the chance to hear some women talking about other women, and it's rarely so nice either... Same when some of them talk about men.
First, you are right. It is not a matter of epoche. Old men can be very shameless, too.
Second, I had a boyfriend who wanted me to dress very form-fitting outdoors. Why?
It made me feel like I was just a representative object. Like a sports car. At that time I thought more and more about what kind of influence clothing has on how people look at me.
If I dress very skimpily, people will pay more attention to my body than to my character.
However, I don't want to be chosen because of my body, but because of my character in the first place.
I respect that everyone can dress the way they want. Men and women. I am certainly not a prude. But I don't want to put up with those looks and sayings anymore that just make me more of an object than a person. I mean, I personally do not want to dress so little.
Certainly, I have a preference for elegant dresses, preferably from Paris or Italy. But what I love most about them is that they are simple, decent and give me a sense of dignity. Sure, personal taste.
I just wonder when you hear how the majority of men talk:
do they really prefer a scantily clad woman, a model? Or an elegant, but not scantily clad woman? What is really more beautiful?
I think You have just wrong perspective. Or point of start.
It will be always, mostly, matter of who are You meeting with, not "how to change these guys?".
At first place, I don't know why anyone would tell You how to dress. Sure, I understand wishes or advices like "I like You in this", "You would look awesome in that" but not if it means total change of someones style and Your comfort.
Me, for example, I sure prefer few specific styles, different from each other, but instead of expectations I just like if girl is sure of her own style, not trying to comfort anyone.
And first impressions are always about looks. Because You don't know the person in the first meet. When You see the guy what are You paying attention to at first? If You never talked to him yet.
Character and personality is the thing that keeps or distance us later. After some serious time we spend with someone. It can even affect physicall atractiveness, like: we didnt like someones look, but after we got to like him for personality, we perceive his look as attractive.
So... I bet You will be chosen at first place because Your looks will hit someones eye and taste. And after that, Your personality will matter.
That is, if You are not some public person that people can get to know via interviews or tv program, so they can have a glipse of Your character.